Betaing absolutely counts! And YAY for rewriting and rethinking! Those are both good things for progress!

As for bosses...my last one spent most of her adulting delegating her own actual job responsibilities to others and then denying responsibility when things didn't work out, so I agree with your wife's suggestion: I'm definitely adulting like a border collie, even if I wish I could be adulting like my last boss. ;-)